Are you too intelligent for your relationship?
Are you too intelligent for your own good in your relationship?
My clients are very intelligent men and women who have created work and business success in their lives.
Even if their success is not so much financial, they have attained a level of mastery in their chosen field.
Their ability to problem solve is second to none and they are able to make the most of their unique gifts.
They also demonstrate a quick understanding of the concepts that I talk about in our sessions and these are not your everyday kind of conversation.
The trouble is, when it comes to their relationship try as they might, their capacity for problem solving does not seem to work.
In fact, it can get them into more problems because it makes them prone to being judgemental, defensiveness and arrogant.
It also tends to keep them stuck in their minds thinking and saying things like:
'I just don't understand why he did that.'
'If I could only work out what it is that I need to do differently'.
The same mind that has helped them achieve work success and mastery of their subject, is in need of a new upgrade.
It needs to 'see' things from a very different perspective.
This doesn't mean they need to be more positive or grateful for the fact they are generally better off than many people in the world. This can end up being used as a way of denying the frustration and dissatisfaction their situation causes.
It means they need to get super curious. I like to think of it as you being the inspector in a 'whodunnit' murder mystery. Your job is to find out what doesn't make sense on an energetic level.
Even though the mind thinks the way they are looking at their relationship makes sense, it often does not at all.
If this resonates with you, know that because you already have the ability to use your mind in the way you can, you are half way there.
When you recover the missing information and understand how your mind is not serving you, you get to use it to create a relationship that works for you and that is aligned with your values.
It does not need to look like any other relationship you see online or in public.
To be honest most of those relationships are hiding a lot of pain that is not being expressed.
You get to be the creator.
The biggest thing that stands in the way of this is the conditioning that has done a good job on you.
The way you have achieved success in your work life is not the way to create it in your love life.
Love relationships require depth and curiosity to thrive over the long-term.
It involves a different type of intelligence.
The good thing to know is, you are right to want to understand what is not working and why you are struggling in this area of your life. When you find that understanding you realise that you have the power to change things in any given moment.
If you would like to actualise a new way of thinking and move past the conflict, avoidance and lack of fulfilment in your relationship, I have a short 10 page free guide you can access for free. You can access the free guide here.
