My Relationship Story
Looking back, for many years I thought I was pretty happy in my relationship.
My husband and I shared many good times and there was always a lot of mutual support between us.
We had our reactive patterns but I thought that was a 'normal' part of being in a long-term relationship.
I suppose you could say we were happy in our dysfunction, which goes the same for many couples. In many ways we were none the wiser!
We had our default behaviours that created upset and disconnection, cropping up from time to time. On the face of it, it looked like we had dealt with them. However, as time went on the gap created by any hurt and disappointment seemed to grow bigger.
In fact when I hit menopause it seemed like it really was time for a relationship shake up. My short fuse and increasing anxiety did not make for an easy relationship.
At times I Wondered Whether It Was Time To Leave.
Maybe We Had Grown Apart?
I had done all this work on myself and I thought maybe I was leaving him behind.
However, I also had a feeling deep down, that there was room for a greater connection and intimacy between us.
I knew that I loved my husband and separating was the last thing I wanted.
With all the popular relationship tools and techniques only ever serving to help me create short-term incremental change I started looking elsewhere for support.
What I discovered
I stumbled upon little known work and it really began to resonate.
Here, I discovered how the energy behind my communication and behaviours
was largely responsible for what I was creating and attracting in my relationship.
I found out that I was just getting more of who I was being.
Essentially I was out of integrity in terms of who I really wanted to be.
It was far easier for me to think I was powerless.
It was also easier to think that it was my husband's
failings that were keeping me stuck.
I began to see that most popular relationship advice is limited
It fails to take into account:
1. The subtle differences between how men and women want and need to be loved.
2. The fact that most people are simply not in in their true power when it comes to love.
When we are in our power we know that:
we have the innate power to change the dynamic of our relationship
or at least make the right decision for ourselves.
I invested much time and money in various mentors who helped me understand
what it looked like to be in my power. I learnt about how much our energy
(the way in which we are showing up) is responsible for our relationship success.
I started putting into practice what I was learning and I began showing up differently.
I did not know whether
my husband would
step up to meet me
However, I discovered that when we step
into our empowered selves this is far more
inspiring and 'attractive' to our partner.
My healing work and newly inspired action
encouraged my husband to open his mind
to the new perspectives I was exploring.
Little miracles started to happen everywhere.
I began to realise that he had far more capacity
to meet me that I had initially given him credit for.
Slowly but surely we started changing
the foundation of our relationship
We were able to navigate conflict and tension
to the extent that arguments are now a thing of the past.
We might have uncomfortable conversations but we know how to navigate them
and are able to keep the connection and intimacy between us alive.
What I would like you to know
as a result of my journey is...
The trusting, connected and intimate relationship
that you desire, is absolutely possible.
It will never be perfect but it will be real.
This is where you will realise what it feels like to be loved for
who you really are without having to resort to
behaviours that you know don't do you any credit
(and also not accept any behaviours that do not respect you).
YOU are THE person who can make this happen.
Even if you have no idea how to do that right now
that is okay. This is exactly the right place to start.
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The structure provided is very powerful and helped us interact in a new, healthier way.
My husband and I were going through a very big crisis in our relationship.
After 10 years, we were close to divorce, not because we wanted to but because it seemed like there was no other way possible. When my husband agreed to do couples coaching, I found Michele and she seemed to have a different and very direct approach so we decided to choose her as our coach.
We didn't regret it and thank god we did it! The structure she provided is very powerful and helped us interact in a new, healthier way.
Michele is an incredible coach and being a coach myself, I learned so much by interacting with her! She is direct but also caring. She gives much guidance and direction.
What I have learned is not only about how to interact with my husband in a different way but also how to be a more empowered human being. I have been transforming and I can say with confidence that
I am not the same person today that I was 3 months ago. I definitely recommend this program to anyone!
It is definitely worth every cent.
She is there for you EVERY step of the way, doing the extra mile when needed. Michele changed my life and I will never be thankful enough that our paths crossed one day!
A. Bartolomei - Lausanne
Disclaimer: I endeavour to offer you the greatest transformation of your situation and one that will be long-lasting. However, your success will ultimately come down to your own effort, motivation, commitment and follow-through. I cannot predict and I do not guarantee that you will attain a particular result, and results differ for each individual. Each individual’s results depend on his or her unique background, dedication, desire, motivation, actions, and numerous other factors.