Transformational Marriage
Coaching and Therapy
with Michele Willmott
Is Your Marriage in Crisis?
Crisis in a marriage can look like different things to different people
The more obvious signs are:
Infidelity
Constant arguments
Little or no physical intimacy
Certain topics of conversation are out of bounds.
Less obvious signs are often hidden away:
The loneliness due to a lack of emotional connection.
The frustration and resentment of being the pro-active one.
Always being told what is right or wrong.
The disappointment or shame around not being
able to create the relationship you want.
If you have got to the point where...
You no longer want to put up with the defensiveness and avoidance.
You don't want to be blamed, criticised, nagged
or held responsible for your partner's feelings.
Whatever your situation, I would like you to know...
This does not have to be the end of your marriage.
If there is still love in the relationship and your partner is a decent human being then it is totally possible to create a radical change in your relationship.
If you don't want to separate and get a divorce and your partner feels the same, it is highly likely that your marriage is calling for growth.
The good thing about your situation is...
You are standing in front of an opportunity that most people will never take advantage of.
This opportunity is to make sure that you know you are doing everything you can to ensure your marriage can thrive.
Life is to short not to, yes?
Here's what I would like you to know...
The majority of marriages are codependent on some level.
This means that most men and women are holding their partner responsible for their feelings.
This can be overt, it can be subtle.
Even the marriages that look okay on the face of it experience this.
Why is this?
We are all conditioned to relate to our feelings in a dysfunctional way.
We are not taught how to process them in a way that creates energetic freedom in our body.
As a result people don't know how to connect with themselves on a deep and intimate level.
If we cannot create intimacy with ourselves it is no wonder we struggle to do so with our partner.
Most people just paper over the gaps and keep sweeping things under the carpet.
They are too scared to rock the boat and take a closer look.
This is a tragedy because what they do not realise is that their marriage will only continue to decline over time.
The best case scenarios are as follows:
- Couples end up with a marriage where they are 'companions'. Companions who might love each other but don't connect on an deeper level. They often end up bickering, which is justified with 'all couples argue'.
Essentially the lack of emotional connection fails to ensure both partners feel heard and seen. - A Transactional Relationship becomes the norm. This is where a couple leads quite a separate life. A common stereotype is where the husband spends most of his time on the golf course and the wife is happy shopping with girlfriends. The relationship dynamic serves each person on some level. However, it also does not allow for a more fulfilling and intimate connection to develop.
The sad thing here is that each individual never gets to experience their greatest love.
Why Hire Me?
My own marriage took a dive when I went through the menopause.
The changes I was going through threatened the foundations of our relationship.
However, the reality was that the foundations were shaky in the first place.
A truly healthy framework of relating was not in place because no-one teaches us this.
We are all surrounded by relationship dysfunction.
Even the seemingly good relationships have skeletons in the closet.
Although I frequently questioned my relationship, I also knew that I did not want to leave my husband .
So, I chose to dig deep and do the work necessary to change our framework of relating.
It was THE best money I have ever spent because it truly has had a knock on effect on all areas of my life.
A healthy relational framework is essential for living your life in a way that feels right for you.
Not one where you have to compromise your values.
Or a life where you end up doing things because you think you should do.
A healthy relationship framework gives you the personal freedom, trust & confidence to renew your marriage.
It gives you both the chance to be heard, seen and loved in a way that didn't feel possible before.
This is what enables you to give your marriage the gift of consistent connection and intimacy.
It is a win win for both you and your partner.
Deep down you both know that you are loved on a deeper level than you ever were before..Click here to read more about my story.
How I Work
I incorporate a combined and powerful
mind and somatic (body) approach in my relationship coaching.
This ensures that we cover the deeper rooted fears of rejection
that most people are carrying around with them as extra baggage.
I help you replace the underlying framework of your
relationship with a new healthier one
I have devised a proven framework called
The Love Alchemy Framework™.
This includes my Profound Permission Method™,
which is highly effective at helping you move
beyond recurring triggers in your marriage.
... read more here
Ultimately YOU have the power to change
the relationship dynamic in your marriage
When you know what this looks and feels like,
you have the ability to create
the emotional connection and intimacy
to help your marriage thrive over the long-term.
Marriage Coaching
and Therapy
Options for Couples
I offer marriage coaching programmes,
depending on the specifics of your situation.
My programmes and sessions are aimed at
couples in the following situations:
1. Couples In Crisis - who want to save their marriage.
2. Couples exploring whether separation is best for them.
3. Couples who want to fine tune their marriage and take it onto the next level.
1. Marriages in Crisis
If you are looking to give your relationship the best chance of survival over the long-term, I recommend committing to a longer term Coaching Programme.
I offer a number of programmes, which vary in time frame, cost and the level of support offered.
It is important to remember that you will have spent many years not realising you are sabotaging to the degree that you both are.
It will therefore take time to change the underlying framework of behaviour and communication in your marriage.
When you have a busy lifestyle and/or work life it is essential that you do not feel rushed.
This is why I offer programmes that span over a number of months.
In my experience this is what is required to create a significant and long-lasting change.
Many of my clients opt for extra support throughout their programme.
They feel more secure knowing that they have my guidance available for them to draw upon.
2. Couples exploring separation
If one or both of you are not clear on whether you want to stay together I recommend a shorter programme of work. This will be tailor-made depending on your situation and will include:
- Individual Sessions to help you clarify what you want moving forward.
- An exploration of individual sabotage patterns that are being played out within the relationship.
- Followed by couples relationship coaching sessions to explore whether there is a desire to make things work based on what we discover in the individual sessions.
If you decide you want to make things work I would then discuss with you my recommended course of action in terms of undertaking any further work with me.
3. Couples who don't feel they are at crisis point but want to take their marriage onto a new level of connection and intimacy.
Again depending on the exact specifics of your situation I will recommend a course of sessions both individually and as a couple. In my experience a programme of sessions over at least 3 to 6 months is beneficial to help you move past the patterns that do not serve you or your marriage.
Please book a call to discuss your situation below.
Schedule a Complimentary Call
I offer 30 minute Complimentary Consultations
to help you explore your next best steps.
You will be asked to complete a questionnaire prior to the call.
Price information is listed on the questionnaire.
My husband and I were going through a very big crisis in our relationship.
After 10 years, we were close to divorce, not because we wanted to
but because it seemed like there was no other way.
When my husband agreed to do couples coaching, I found Michele and she seemed to
have a different and very direct approach. We didn't regret it and thank god we did it!
The structure she provided is very powerful and helped us interact in a new, healthier way.
Michele is an incredible coach and being a coach myself,
I learned so much by interacting with her! She is direct but also caring.
What I have learned is not only about how to interact with my husband
in a different way but also how to be a more empowered human being.
I have been transforming and I can say with confidence that
I am not the same person today that I was 3 months ago.
I definitely recommend this program to anyone!
It is definitely worth every cent.
She is there for you EVERY step of the way, doing the extra mile when needed.
Michele changed my life and I will never be thankful
enough that our paths crossed one day!
Audrey & Viktor
Switzerland
*Disclaimer:
Any testimonials stated on this page or on any pages on this website are proof of the success of Michele's work. Results may vary from person to person depending on your commitment and specific situation.
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