Counselling and Therapy
with Michele Willmott
Is Your Marriage in Crisis?
Crisis in a marriage can look like different things to different people
The more obvious signs are:
Little or no physical intimacy
Certain topics of conversation are not safe to be discussed.
Less obvious signs are often hidden away:
The loneliness due to a lack of emotional connection.
The frustration and resentment at always being the pro-active one
or always being told what is right or wrong.
The disappointment or shame around not being
able to create the love life you want.
If you have got to the point where...
You no longer want to put up with the defensiveness and avoidance.
You don't want to be blamed, criticised, nagged
or held responsible for your partner's feelings.
Whatever your situation, I would like you to know...
This does not have to be the end of your marriage.
If there is still love in the relationship and your partner is a decent human being then it is totally possible to create a radical change in your relationship.
If you don't want to separate and get a divorce and your partner feels the same, it is highly likely that your marriage is calling for growth.
Growth from both you and your partner.
The good thing about your situation is...
That you have an opportunity most people will never take advantage of.
This opportunity is to make sure that you are doing everything to ensure your marriage gives you the happiness and fulfilment you want.
Life is to short not to, yes?
Here's what I would like you to know...
The majority of marriages are codependent on some level.
Even the ones that look okay on the face of it!
We are all conditioned to relate to our partners in a way that holds them responsible for our feelings.
Essentially, this is a dysfunctional way of relating, which serves to create a deep unhappiness due to the lack of real emotional connection.
Most people just paper over the gaps and keep sweeping things under the carpet.
They are too scared to rock the boat and take a closer look.
This is a tragedy because what they do not realise is that their marriage will only continue to decline over time.
The best people end up with is a marriage where they are 'companions' who bicker and don't connect emotionally in a way that ensures they both feel heard and deeply loved.
Physical intimacy is disappearing or has usually disappeared from these marriages.
Why Hire Me?
My own marriage took a dive when I went through the menopause.
The changes I was going through threatened the foundations of our relationship.
However, the reality was that the foundations were shaky in the first place.
A truly healthy framework of relating was not in place because no-one teaches us this.
We are surrounded by dysfunction.
Even the seemingly good relationships have skeletons in the closet.
I knew that I did not want to leave my husband although I frequently questioned our relationship.
So, I chose to dig deep and do the work necessary to change our framework of relating.
This was THE best money I have ever spent because it truly has had a knock on effect on all areas of my life.
A healthy relational framework is essential for living your life in a way that feels right for you.
Not one where you have to compromise your values or end up doing things because you think you need to or should do.
A healthy framework gives you the personal freedom, self trust and confidence to renew your marriage.
It gives you both the chance to be heard, seen and loved in a way that didn't feel possible before.
This is what enables you to give your marriage the gift of consistent connection and intimacy.
It is a win win for both you and your partner because you deep down know that you are loved on a deeper level than you ever were before..Click here to read more about my story.
How I Work
I incorporate a combined and powerful
mind and somatic (body) approach in my relationship coaching.
This ensures that we cover the deeper rooted fears of rejection
that most people are carrying around with them as extra baggage.
I help you replace the underlying framework of your
relationship with a new healthier one
I have devised a proven framework called
The Love Alchemy Framework™.
This includes my Profound Permission Method™,
which is highly effective at helping you move
beyond recurring triggers in your marriage.
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Ultimately YOU have the power to change
the relationship dynamic in your marriage
When you know what this looks and feels like,
you will have the ability to consistently create
the emotional connection & intimacy
to help your relationship thrive over the long-term.
Options for Couples
I offer marriage coaching programmes,
depending on the specifics of your situation.
My programmes and sessions are aimed at
couples in the following situations:
1. Couples In Crisis - who want to save their marriage.
2. Couples exploring whether separation is best for them.
3. Couples who want to take their marriage on to the next level.
Marriages in Crisis
If you are looking to give your relationship the best chance of survival over the long-term, I highly recommend committing to one of my Premium Mentoring Programmes. Here I offer additional support to help you achieve the best possible outcome during our time together.
It is important to remember that you will have spent many years not realising you are sabotaging to the degree that you both are.
It will therefore take time to change the underlying framework of behaviour and communication in your marriage.
When you have a busy lifestyle and/or work life it is essential that you do not feel rushed.
This is why I offer longer-term programmes. In my experience this is what is required to create a significant and long-lasting change.
My clients feel more secure knowing that they have such in-depth support available for them to draw upon.
Couples exploring separation
If one or both of you are not clear on whether you want to stay together I recommend a shorter programme of work. This will be tailor-made depending on your situation and will include:
- Individual Sessions to help you clarify what you want moving forward.
- An exploration of individual sabotage patterns that are being played out within the relationship.
- Followed by couples relationship coaching sessions to explore whether there is a desire to make things work based on what we discover in the individual sessions.
If you decide you want to make things work I would then discuss with you my recommended course of action in terms of undertaking any further work with me.
Couples who don't feel they are at crisis point but want to take their marriage onto a new level of connection and intimacy.
Again depending on the exact specifics of your situation I will recommend a course of sessions both individually and as a couple. In my experience a programme of sessions over at least 3 to 6 months is beneficial to help you move past the patterns that do not serve you or your marriage.
Please book a call to discuss your situation below.
Schedule a Complimentary Call
I offer 30 minute Complimentary Consultations
to help you explore your next best steps.
You will be invited to complete a questionnaire.
Here you can find my fee structure.
My husband and I were going through a very big crisis in our relationship.
After 10 years, we were close to divorce, not because we wanted to
but because it seemed like there was no other way.
When my husband agreed to do couples coaching, I found Michele and she seemed to
have a different and very direct approach. We didn't regret it and thank god we did it!
The structure she provided is very powerful and helped us interact in a new, healthier way.
Michele is an incredible coach and being a coach myself,
I learned so much by interacting with her! She is direct but also caring.
What I have learned is not only about how to interact with my husband
in a different way but also how to be a more empowered human being.
I have been transforming and I can say with confidence that
I am not the same person today that I was 3 months ago.
I definitely recommend this program to anyone!
It is definitely worth every cent.
She is there for you EVERY step of the way, doing the extra mile when needed.
Michele changed my life and I will never be thankful
enough that our paths crossed one day!
Audrey & Viktor