When Your Marriage Feels Like It's Failing
I Help You Rebuild It From the Ground Up!
If your marriage at a critical crossroads and you want to make sure you have done everything you can, please know that there is hope.
Your relationship struggles are a symptom of clever societal conditioning.
This conditioning is designed to keep you frustrated and unhappy with your partner.
The Truth About Marriage Problems
As a result of this conditioning, most couples are operating from sabotaging patterns that they are unaware of. This is what keeps them stuck in cycles of disconnection and frustration.
What most couples don't realise:
Marriage problems are, at their very core, energetic problems.
The energy behind your words, actions, and responses is what creates or destroys connection.
If genuine love still exists between you and your partner is fundamentally a good person, radical transformation is absolutely possible.
When both partners want to avoid separation and divorce, your marriage is calling for growth, not dissolution.
This does not have to be the end of your marriage.
It Can Be The Gateway to Deeper Connection
Every challenge in your marriage contains the exact blueprint you need to unlock deeper intimacy and emotional connection.
Most couples never create this because they are too busy managing surface symptoms instead of examining the root cause.
Rather than addressing the deeper patterns, most couples settle for:
Companionship:
Partners who love each other but never connect deeply. They justify constant bickering as normal, but the lack of emotional connection means neither feels truly heard or seen.
A Transactional Relationship:
Couples lead separate lives, perhaps he's always on the golf course while she shops with friends. This serves each person superficially but prevents the development of deeper intimacy.
What Is Needed?
- Emotional Safety
We are conditioned to relate to our feelings dysfunctionally.
We are taught that certain feelings are "bad" and that our partner is responsible for how we feel.
This creates insecurity and disempowerment.
The truth is, while your partner might trigger you, you are responsible for what you do with that trigger. Your 'negative' feelings are actually an opportunity to create connection rather than disconnection.
- A deeper knowledge and understanding of how subtle sabotage patterns show up.
Most couples are completely unaware of the subtle ways they push each other away. These patterns often look reasonable and rational on the surface. For example, you might think you are being helpful by offering advice, or understanding by staying quiet to avoid conflict, but these behaviours often have the opposite effect.
Understanding these hidden patterns is crucial because you cannot change what you can't see
- Effective, nuanced communication that focuses on healthy repair and the differences between men and women.
Traditional communication techniques often fail because they ignore the fundamental differences between masculine and feminine energy.
Men and women have different needs when it comes to feeling loved and respected.
Effective communication requires learning how to speak to your partner in a way that creates safety for vulnerability and transparency.
Equally important is mastering healthy repair; knowing how to reconnect after conflict in a way that actually strengthens your bond rather than just sweeping things under the carpet.
The reality when it comes to love..
We are all surrounded by relationship dysfunction.
It’s no surprise that many couples are quietly struggling.
There were times I deeply questioned my relationship, but I also knew I didn’t want to leave my husband.
Instead of walking away, I chose to go inward and do the real work of shifting how I showed up. It became the most life-changing investment I have ever made, not just in my marriage, but in every area of my life.
A healthy relationship framework doesn’t make you immune to stress, conflict, or disconnection. But it does give you the trust, freedom, and inner stability to find your way back to each other, again and again.
Being able to create a dynamic where both partners feel seen, heard, and deeply valued is priceless. Where intimacy becomes something you renew, not something you lose.
Most importantly, you stop letting self-sabotage have the final say in how you show up in love.
Marriage Coaching and Therapy
Options for Couples
I offer relationship coaching programmes,
depending on the specifics of your situation.
My programmes and sessions are aimed at
couples in the following situations:
1. Couples In Crisis - who want to save their marriage.
2. Couples who have decided to separate.
3. Couples who want to enhance their connection and intimacy.
1. Marriages in Crisis
If you are looking to give your marriage the best chance of survival and transformation over the long-term, I advise my longer term programmes.
These include individual and couples sessions and varying levels of support between sessions.
It is important to remember that you will have spent many years sabotaging without even realising it.
These patterns have become ingrained and it is all too easy to default into old patterns.
A commitment to transformation as opposed to 'just seeing how you get on' is going to be of far greater benefit in the long-run. This is why I do not offer one-off sessions.
When you have a busy lifestyle and/or work life it is also essential that you do not feel rushed.
My clients feel more secure knowing that they have longer-term support available for them to draw upon.
2. Couples exploring separation and divorce
If you have decied to separate or one partner is not clear on whether they want to stay I generally recommend a shorter term programme depending on your situation.
Again I start with individual sessions moving on to couples work.
All programmes are tailor-made depending on your situation.
3. Couples who want to take their marriage onto a new level of connection and intimacy.
If your relationship is on the whole good but you are looking to move beyond some recurring issues in certain areas I recommend a shorter 3 month programme of sessions. These will start with individual sessions moving on to couples work.
Please book a call to discuss your situation below.
Why Hire Me?
My own marriage took a dive when I went through the menopause.
The changes I was going through threatened the foundations of our relationship.
However, the reality was that the foundations were shaky in the first place.
A truly healthy framework of relating was not in place because no-one teaches us this.
The truth is. no matter what I tried it wasn't going to work because my energy was one of sabotage....Click here to read more about my story.
How I Work
I incorporate a combined and powerful mind and somatic (body) approach in my couples coaching. This ensures we address the deeper rooted fears of rejection.
It is essential that these fears are not left to run the show!
I help you replace the underlying framework of your relationship with a new healthier one.
I have devised a proven framework called The Love Alchemy Framework™.
This includes my Profound Permission Method™, which is highly effective at helping you move beyond recurring triggers in your relationship.
When you move beyond triggers you have much more space to create love and connection together.
Read more here..
Schedule a Complimentary Call
I offer 30 minute Complimentary Consultations
to help you explore your next best steps.
My husband and I were going through a very big crisis in our relationship.
After 10 years, we were close to divorce, not because we wanted to but because it seemed like there was no other way.
When my husband agreed to do couples coaching, I found Michele and she seemed to have a different and very direct approach. We didn't regret it and thank god we did it!
The structure she provided is very powerful and helped us interact in a new, healthier way.
Michele is an incredible coach and being a coach myself I learned so much by interacting with her! She is direct but also caring.
What I have learned is not only about how to interact with my husband in a different way but also how to be a more empowered human being. I have been transforming and I can say with confidence that
I am not the same person today that I was 3 months ago.
I definitely recommend this program to anyone! It is definitely worth every cent. She is there for you EVERY step of the way, doing the extra mile when needed.
Michele changed my life and I will never be thankful enough that our paths crossed one day!
Audrey & Viktor, Switzerland
*Disclaimer: Any testimonials stated on this page or on any pages on this website are proof of the success of Michele's work. Results may vary from person to person depending on your commitment and specific situation.
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