Michele Willmott
Relationship Coach and Mentor for High Achieving Couples
Marriage Therapy or Relationship Coaching?
When Your Marriage Feels Like It's Falling Apart
If you are searching for marriage therapy, there is a good chance your relationship has reached a point
where talking about it no longer feels enough.
Perhaps trust has been damaged. An affair has come to light. Separation has been discussed.
Or perhaps you have simply found yourselves living more like roommates than partners,
repeating the same painful conversations without knowing how to change them.
Many of the couples who come to me are intelligent, successful people who have already tried to improve their marriage.
Some have read the books, listened to the podcasts, or attended marriage counselling or therapy.
Others have simply spent months or years trying harder, communicating more, and hoping things would somehow improve.
Yet despite their best intentions, they continue to find themselves caught in the same patterns.
This is because the words being spoken are only part of the picture.
What is often driving conflict, emotional distance, defensiveness, withdrawal, criticism,
or the feeling of walking on eggshells are unconscious fear-based patterns operating
beneath the surface of the relationship.
Until those patterns begin to change, the relationship itself rarely moves in a different direction.
My work is therefore not simply about improving communication or understanding each other better.
It is about helping each partner recognise and transform the deeper patterns driving the relationship,
creating the emotional safety, trust and connection needed for meaningful and lasting change.
For some couples, that leads to rebuilding a stronger marriage than they believed was possible.
For others, where one or both partners are uncertain about the future, the work creates
the clarity needed to move forward consciously and without regret.
Because every relationship is different, there are different ways to begin depending on your circumstances.
Ways to Work with Me
1. Marriages in Crisis
For couples who want to do everything possible to rebuild their marriage before walking away.
2. Early Intervention
For couples who recognise their relationship is drifting and want to change the pattern before it becomes a crisis.
3. High-Stakes Relationships
For couples whose relationship difficulties are now affecting family life, business, professional responsibilities or significant financial decisions.
If you know that you want to save your marriage and you are ready to explore private coaching options please book a call below.
4. Relationship Clarity
For individuals or couples where one or both partners are unsure whether the relationship can be rebuilt and need professional clarity before deciding what comes next.
If you are unsure if you want to stay in your relationship and whether private coaching is for you, I offer 2 hour Relationship Clarity assessment.
Can a Marriage Be Saved?
The honest answer is that no coach, therapist or counsellor can promise to save every marriage.
Meaningful change depends on both people becoming willing to recognise the patterns
that have brought the relationship to this point and taking responsibility for changing them.
However, many couples underestimate what is actually possible.
By the time people seek professional support, they have often spent years trying to solve the relationship using the same thinking, the same conversations and the same behaviours that unintentionally helped create the problem.
Real change begins when the underlying patterns driving the relationship begin to change.
For some couples, this creates a level of connection, trust and intimacy they have never previously experienced.
For others, it brings the clarity needed to make a conscious decision about the future of the relationship, knowing they have genuinely explored what was possible rather than walking away with unanswered questions or regret.
When Does a Marriage Have the Best Chance of Recovery?
In my experience, relationships have the greatest opportunity for
transformation when the following foundations are in place:
- - You share broadly similar values and a similar outlook on life.
- - There are no significant values conflicts or active addictions preventing genuine engagement in the relationship.
- - Both partners are willing to take responsibility for their contribution to the relationship dynamic, rather than focusing solely on changing each other.
- - Both partners are prepared to do the uncomfortable work required to identify and transform the fear-based patterns that are keeping the relationship stuck.
- When these foundations are present, even relationships that feel deeply disconnected or close to breaking down can change in ways many couples never believed were possible.
Why Hire Me?
My own marriage took a dive when I went through the menopause.
The changes I was going through threatened the foundations of our relationship.
However, the reality was that the foundations were shaky in the first place.
A truly healthy framework of relating was not in place because no-one teaches us this.
The truth is. no matter what I tried it wasn't going to work because my energy was one of sabotage....Click here to read more about my story.
How I Work
I incorporate a combined and powerful mind and somatic (body) approach in my couples coaching. This ensures we address the deeper rooted fears of rejection.
It is essential that these fears are not left to run the show.
I help you replace the underlying framework of your relationship with a new healthier one.
I have devised a proven framework that includes my Profound Permission Method®, which is highly effective at helping you move beyond recurring triggers in your relationship.
When you move beyond triggers you have much more space to create love and connection together.
Read more here..
If you are unsure if you want to stay in your relationship
and whether private coaching is for you,
I offer 2 hour Relationship Clarity sessions.
If you know that you want to save your marriage and you are ready to
explore private coaching options please book a complimentary call below.
My husband and I were going through a very big crisis in our relationship.
After 10 years, we were close to divorce, not because we wanted to but because it seemed like there was no other way.
When my husband agreed to do couples coaching, I found Michele and she seemed to have a different and very direct approach. We didn't regret it and thank god we did it!
The structure she provided is very powerful and helped us interact in a new, healthier way.
Michele is an incredible coach and being a coach myself I learned so much by interacting with her! She is direct but also caring.
What I have learned is not only about how to interact with my husband in a different way but also how to be a more empowered human being. I have been transforming and I can say with confidence that
I am not the same person today that I was 3 months ago.
I definitely recommend this program to anyone! It is definitely worth every cent. She is there for you EVERY step of the way, doing the extra mile when needed.
Michele changed my life and I will never be thankful enough that our paths crossed one day!
Audrey & Viktor, Switzerland
*Disclaimer: Any testimonials stated on this page or on any pages on this website are proof of the success of Michele's work. Results may vary from person to person depending on your commitment and specific situation.
