Do you have relationship shame?
Relationship shame is real and common.It’s generally that icky, heavy feeling that comes up when you think about the lack of fulfilment in your love life. My clients are successful career or business people but their relationship is lagging behind.This can bring up a lot of shame based feelings for them such as:- Why can’t I […]
To agree to disagree. Is it a good idea?
To agree to disagree may have its uses in some cases. It doesn’t seem wise to put a statement such as this on every situation; especially when it comes to relationships.Maybe you and your partner just see a certain topic or aspect of life differently. You have differing opinions but it doesn’t cause a rift […]
Is resentment building in your relationship?
If resentment is building between you and your partner either due to recurring conflict or avoidance of talking about the topics that need to be addressed then I encourage you to hold tight. It does not have to mean the end of your relationship (you can see the situations that would signal that it is time […]
Is there such a thing as a perfect relationship?
We often hear people saying there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. We know that intellectually, yet it is evident from the level of dysfunction that goes on in relationships that many people are still chasing an ideal. On the other hand many people use this statement as a way of hiding behind their […]
Does Marriage Counselling Work
Marriage counselling and therapy often get a bad rap. I’m sure you have heard the saying ‘it put the final nail in the coffin’. This is not really surprising given that many people decide to go to therapy when the relationship really is in dire straits.It is also no wonder when many couples think that going to […]
How cynicism can ruin your relationship
Higher quality conversations that lead to greater, more consistent intimacy and emotional connection in your relationship……..involve calling yourself out on your own limited perspectives.Cynicism is a big one. We all love to be cynical especially when we think we smell a rat about something. There are a lot of scams out there and so it […]
The impact of healthy masculine energy on a relationship
The Miracle and Power of Healthy Masculine Expression (and the ‘NO’ to the wounded feminine). I have been working with a wonderful couple recently who have given me permission to share this story.In a nutshell, I invited the husband to have a conversation with his mother-in-law (who lives with them) about how she was showing up in […]
The ‘No Relationship is Perfect’ Argument.
There are two very different ways to relate to the ‘no relationship is perfect’ argument. One way creates stagnancy, low grade or non-existent intimacy the other consistent erotic aliveness in all its forms. The ‘No Relationship is Perfect’ couple who are actually stuck in dysfunction (often without full awareness) can look remarkably similar to the ‘No Relationship […]
When you feel stuck in your love life
If you keep repeating the same pattern in your love life to the extent you are feeling stuck and frustrated because you cannot seem to move past it, I invite you to read on….. Whether your pattern is…. *Attracting the same kind of partners who are not a good match. *Attracting partner’s who seem a good match but […]
What Your Relationship Wants
Your relationship does not care about you being right.It cares about you knowing HOW to create emotional connection.It wants you to go deeper than just surface level opinions and likes and dislikes.Knowing how to create a deeply loving relationship requires having emotional connection with yourself first and foremost.If you think you already have this please […]
