When Your Marriage Feels Like It's Failing
I Help You Rebuild It From the Ground Up!
If your marriage at a critical crossroads and you want to make sure you have done everything you can, please know that there is hope.
Your relationship struggles are a symptom of clever societal conditioning.
This conditioning is designed to keep you frustrated and unhappy with your partner.
The Truth About Marriage Problems
As a result of this conditioning, most couples are operating from sabotaging patterns that they are unaware of. This is what keeps them stuck in cycles of disconnection and frustration.
What most couples don't realise:
Marriage problems are, at their very core, energetic problems.
The energy behind your words, actions, and responses is what creates or destroys connection.
If genuine love still exists between you and your partner is fundamentally a good person, radical transformation is absolutely possible.
When both partners want to avoid separation and divorce, your marriage is calling for growth, not dissolution.
This does not have to be the end of your marriage.
It Can Be The Gateway to Deeper Connection
Every challenge in your marriage contains the exact blueprint you need to unlock deeper intimacy and emotional connection.
Most couples never create this because they are too busy managing surface symptoms instead of examining the root cause.
Rather than addressing the deeper patterns, most couples settle for:
Companionship:
Partners who love each other but never connect deeply.
They justify constant bickering as normal, but the lack of emotional connection means neither feels truly heard, seen or fulfilled.
A Transactional Relationship:
Couples lead separate lives, perhaps he's always on the golf course while she shops with friends.
This serves each person superficially but prevents the development of deeper intimacy.
What Is Needed?
- Emotional Safety
We are conditioned to relate to our feelings dysfunctionally.
We are taught that certain feelings are "bad" and that our partner is responsible for how we feel.
This creates insecurity and disempowerment.
The truth is, while your partner might trigger you,
you are responsible for what you do with that trigger.
Your 'negative' feelings are actually an opportunity to create connection rather than disconnection.
- A deeper knowledge and understanding of how subtle sabotage patterns show up.
Most couples are completely unaware of the subtle ways they push each other away.
These patterns often look reasonable and rational on the surface.
For example, you might think you are being helpful by offering advice, or understanding by staying quiet to avoid conflict, but these behaviours often have the opposite effect.
Understanding these hidden patterns is crucial because you cannot change what you can't see
- Effective, nuanced communication that focuses on healthy repair and the differences between men and women.
Traditional communication techniques often fail because they ignore the fundamental differences between masculine and feminine energy.
Men and women have different needs when it comes to feeling loved and respected.
Effective communication requires learning how to speak to your partner in a way that creates safety for vulnerability and transparency.
Equally important is mastering healthy repair; knowing how to reconnect after conflict in a way that actually strengthens your bond rather than just sweeping things under the carpet.
The reality when it comes to love..
We are all surrounded by relationship dysfunction.
It’s no surprise that many couples are quietly struggling.
There were times I deeply questioned my relationship, but I also knew I didn’t want to leave my husband.
Instead of walking away, I chose to go inward and do the real work of shifting how I showed up. It became the most life-changing investment I have ever made, not just in my marriage, but in every area of my life.
A healthy relationship framework doesn’t make you immune to stress, conflict, or disconnection. But it does give you the trust, freedom, and inner stability to find your way back to each other, again and again.
Being able to create a dynamic where both partners feel seen, heard, and deeply valued is priceless. Where intimacy becomes something you renew, not something you lose.
Most importantly, you stop letting self-sabotage have the final say in how you show up in love.
Marriage Coaching and Therapy
Options for Couples
I offer relationship coaching programmes,
depending on the specifics of your situation.
My programmes and sessions are aimed at
couples in the following situations:
1. Couples on the verge of break-up
Where the relationship feels at risk and both want to intervene.
2. Couples at a crossroads
Where one or both individuals want to gain clarity on whether to continue together or let go consciously.
3. Couples facing high personal or structural stakes
Where relationship difficulties are now carrying wider consequences, emotionally, practically, and financially; such as impacting family life, business, professional roles, or long-term security and inheritance.
Although the emotional work is the same, these situations require longer-term containment (usually 9 months), consistency, and discretion in order to protect what is at stake and prevent further fallout.
Please see more information below
1. Marriages in Crisis
When a marriage is under strain, lasting change does not come from quick fixes or one-off conversations.
It comes from working with the relationship over time, in a way that allows patterns to be seen, interrupted, and replaced.
For couples who want real and enduring change, I offer longer-form programmes of 6 or 9 months.
These are designed to support the work steadily, rather than trying to resolve complex relational dynamics in a short or reactive window.
The programme includes a combination of joint and individual sessions.
Depending on the level of support required, there is also structured access between sessions for relevant questions or reflections as the work unfolds.
At key points, I provide written or audio guidance to help consolidate what is emerging and to reduce the likelihood of the relationship slipping back into familiar patterns under pressure.
Most couples have been living with their relational dynamics for years without realising how they are being reinforced.
For that reason, meaningful change usually requires time, consistency, and space, rather than rushed intervention.
My work is focused on creating stability and change that can actually last.
2. Couples seeking clarity
For couples who are unsure whether they want to continue together or part ways, I offer a 3-month programme designed to bring clarity, not persuasion.
This work includes a combination of individual and joint sessions, allowing each of you to understand your own position clearly, while also examining the relational dynamic between you.
The purpose of this programme is not to “fix” the relationship or to push toward staying together.
It is to slow the dynamic down enough to see what is actually happening beneath habit, fear, and reaction so that a real decision can be made.
Many couples attempt to decide their future while still inside the emotional charge of the pattern. This tends to produce urgency, avoidance, or regret.
Over three months, we work to stabilise the dynamic, surface what has been unspoken or avoided, and identify where responsibility is being taken and withheld on both sides.
This creates the conditions for a decision that is conscious, grounded, and owned, whether that is recommitting to the relationship or separating with integrity.
Clients often describe this work as bringing relief, not because the answer is guaranteed, but because the decision no longer comes from pressure, confusion, or self-betrayal.
3. Couples in early decline
If your relationship is fundamentally solid, but you want to move beyond recurring patterns or limitations in specific areas, I offer a shorter 4-month programme.
This work combines individual and joint sessions, allowing us to address both personal dynamics and the shared relational field, without treating the relationship as broken.
The focus here is refinement rather than repair:
increasing emotional safety, deepening intimacy, and resolving patterns that quietly limit connection or polarity over time.
This programme is suited to couples who are already functioning well, but sense there is more available when old dynamics are no longer running in the background.
If this resonates, please book a call so we can discuss whether this is the right level of work for your situation.
3. Couples in high-stakes situations
Where the relationship is under strain and the consequences of that strain extend beyond the couple, affecting family systems, business interests, professional roles and reputation, or long-term financial arrangements.
While the emotional process is the same, these cases require a longer and more carefully held programme of work (typically around 9 months), with consistency and discretion to protect what matters most.
Why Hire Me?
My own marriage took a dive when I went through the menopause.
The changes I was going through threatened the foundations of our relationship.
However, the reality was that the foundations were shaky in the first place.
A truly healthy framework of relating was not in place because no-one teaches us this.
The truth is. no matter what I tried it wasn't going to work because my energy was one of sabotage....Click here to read more about my story.
How I Work
I incorporate a combined and powerful mind and somatic (body) approach in my couples coaching. This ensures we address the deeper rooted fears of rejection.
It is essential that these fears are not left to run the show!
I help you replace the underlying framework of your relationship with a new healthier one.
I have devised a proven framework called The Love Alchemy Framework™.
This includes my Profound Permission Method™, which is highly effective at helping you move beyond recurring triggers in your relationship.
When you move beyond triggers you have much more space to create love and connection together.
Read more here..
My husband and I were going through a very big crisis in our relationship.
After 10 years, we were close to divorce, not because we wanted to but because it seemed like there was no other way.
When my husband agreed to do couples coaching, I found Michele and she seemed to have a different and very direct approach. We didn't regret it and thank god we did it!
The structure she provided is very powerful and helped us interact in a new, healthier way.
Michele is an incredible coach and being a coach myself I learned so much by interacting with her! She is direct but also caring.
What I have learned is not only about how to interact with my husband in a different way but also how to be a more empowered human being. I have been transforming and I can say with confidence that
I am not the same person today that I was 3 months ago.
I definitely recommend this program to anyone! It is definitely worth every cent. She is there for you EVERY step of the way, doing the extra mile when needed.
Michele changed my life and I will never be thankful enough that our paths crossed one day!
Audrey & Viktor, Switzerland
*Disclaimer: Any testimonials stated on this page or on any pages on this website are proof of the success of Michele's work. Results may vary from person to person depending on your commitment and specific situation.
