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# Michele Willmott

Relationship Coach for Successful Couples

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- [Articles](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/blog/) - Renew the connection and intimacy in your relationship. Relationship coaching for high achieving men, women and couples. Guildford, London and online.
- [The impact of healthy masculine energy on a relationship](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/the-impact-of-healthy-masculine-energy-on-a-relationship/) - The Miracle and Power of Healthy Masculine Expression (and the ‘NO’ to the wounded feminine). I have been working with a wonderful couple recently who have given me permission to share this story.In a nutshell, I invited the husband to have a conversation with his mother-in-law (who lives with them) about how she was showing up Healthy and empowered masculine action serves to reinforce how much better life can become for everyone involved.
- [One of the Fastest Ways Women Unknowingly Create Disconnection in Their Relationships](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/one-of-the-fastest-ways-women-unknowingly-create-disconnection-in-their-relationships/) - One of the Fastest Ways Women Unknowingly Create Disconnection in Their Relationships Most women don’t wake up in the morning thinking, “How can I push my partner away today?” They usually do the opposite. They care about the relationship. They want it to thrive.They want more closeness, more honesty and more emotional intimacy. Which is
- [Why awareness and understanding can make your relationship worse](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/why-awareness-and-understanding-can-make-your-relationship-worse/)
- [Why Many Women Are Relating From Pseudo-Power In Their Relationship](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/why-many-women-are-relating-from-pseudo-power-in-their-relationship/) - Why So Many Women Are Relating From Pseudo-Power — Not True Feminine Power Many women in an understandable quest to be strong, capable and independent, adopt an energy of what I call ‘fake’ or pseudo-power in their relationship. It often sounds like: “I’m regulated.” “I’m not affected by his moods.” “I’ve done so much more
- [The 3 Things Required to Turn Your Relationship Around](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/the-3-things-required-to-turn-your-relationship-around/) - The Couples Who Have the Capacity to Go Far Beyond the Norm Not every relationship has the same structural foundation.Some are naturally primed for profound transformation.Others are working against the grain of the bond itself. Below is the clearest way to understand the difference. THE COUPLES WHO THRIVE The relationships that have the potential to
- [Your Triggers Aren't the Problem - Your Identification With Them Is](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/your-triggers-arent-the-problem-your-identification-with-them-is/) - Your Triggers Aren’t the Problem, Your Identification With Them Is Most people misunderstand their triggers.They either fight them, avoid them, or outsource them to their partner. But a trigger is not an emotional inconvenience.It is a signal.A map showing you where to go.A portal into the identity that is running your relationship without your consent.
- [You Are Keeping Your Partner's Bad Habits Alive More Than You Realise](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/you-are-keeping-your-partners-bad-habits-alive-more-than-you-realise/)
- [The 1% Secret: How to Create an ‘Imperfectly Perfect’ Relationship](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/the-1-secret-how-to-create-an-imperfectly-perfect-relationship/)
- [The Real Reason Your Intimacy Is Gone (And How to Resurrect It)](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/the-real-reason-your-intimacy-is-gone-and-how-to-resurrect-it/) - When intimacy vanishes.When sex feels like a chore.When attraction between you fades. This is the reality of most long-term relationships. It gets blamed on: Different libidos. Growing apart. Or the classic line: “that’s just normal after years together.” Only normal in that it is common. Because the real reason intimacy dies is not biology, age,
- [Why Isn’t Your Relationship Getting the Same Investment as Your Lifestyle?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/why-isnt-your-relationship-getting-the-same-investment-as-your-lifestyle/) - Why Isn’t Your Relationship Getting the Same Investment as Your Lifestyle? You’ll have spent thousands on your holidays over the years.On fine wine.On the car that makes you feel alive. And yes, the holidays are a treat.You have worked hard for it. They are that opportunity to down tools and relax.You might even be waited on
- [Are you feeling shut down in your relationship?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/its-not-what-you-say-its-the-energy-you-say-it-with/) - Are you feeling frustrated and sad that despite trying to express how you feel in your relationship, you end up feeling shut down or misunderstood? It is a common occurrence for many couples. The one person we want to ‘get’ us, is often the person that doesn’t seem to have any time for us or
- [Moving Past Labelling in Relationships](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/moving-past-labelling-in-relationships/) - The therapy and relationship coaching industries have fallen into a dangerous trap of oversimplification. Everywhere we turn, we are bombarded with neat categories that promise to explain the complexity of human connection: “secure vs. anxious attachment,” “masculine vs. feminine energy,” “healthy vs. toxic behaviors,” “narcissist vs. empath” and so on. While these frameworks can offer
- [When You Are Both Right But Still Disconnected](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/when-you-are-both-right-but-still-disconnected/) - Breaking Through the Communication Smokescreen: Why Being “Right” Isn’t EnoughDo you often find yourself in a conversation with your partner where you both have completely valid points, yet somehow you are still stuck? You might even acknowledge each other’s perspective, but the discussion keeps going nowhere, perhaps even becoming competitive. If this sounds familiar, you
- [The Mirror Effect: How Your Money Patterns Reflect Your Relationship Dynamics](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/the-mirror-effect-how-your-money-patterns-reflect-your-relationship-dynamics/) - Investment Patterns Mirror Commitment Patterns.How you handle money mirrors how you show up in your relationship. This mirror effect reveals itself in powerful ways:- Hesitating to spend = Hesitating to be vulnerable.- Seeking guarantees = Avoiding emotional risks.- Looking for quick fixes = Avoiding deep work.Avoidance in one area is avoidance in another, and here’s
- [The hidden cost of suppressed male anger in relationships](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/the-hidden-cost-of-suppressed-male-anger-in-relationships/) - The Hidden Cost of Suppressed Male Anger in Relationships We need to talk about something that happens in countless relationships: when men suppress their anger they inadvertently create a deeper problem. Picture this: An argument has occurred. He’s angry. Really angry. But he’s learned that expressing anger can be destructive. He has made mistakes before.
- [6 Pillars of Healthy Relationships: Why Energy Matters More Than Words](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/6-pillars-of-healthy-relationships-why-energy-matters-more-than-words/) - 6 Pillars of Healthy Relationships: Why Energy Matters More Than Words When we talk about healthy relationships, we often focus on visible behaviors and communication patterns. However, there’s a deeper layer that many people overlook: this is, the energy behind our words and actions. Understanding the difference between clean and distorted or unhealthy energy can
- [Navigating Holiday Relationship Stress](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/navigating-holiday-relationship-stress/) - Navigating Holiday Relationship Stress: Compassionate Communication Strategies for Couples During ChristmasThe holiday season, while meant to be joyful, can often become a minefield of relationship challenges. Couples frequently find themselves navigating complex emotional landscapes, balancing family expectations, personal traditions, and mutual needs. Here are some ideas and practical strategies to help you and your partner
- [Relationship Triggers: An Opportunity to Save Your Marriage](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/relationship-triggers-an-opportunity-to-save-your-marriage/) - Relationship Triggers: The Unexpected Gateway to Transformation We’ve all been there – those moments when our partner’s actions trigger something deep within us, sparking frustration, anger, or hurt. Those triggers that seem permanent, unchangeable, like they’ll always be a source of conflict in your relationship. But unfortunately most people miss the fact that these very
- [A Story of hope even when it felt impossible](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/a-story-of-hope-even-when-it-felt-impossible/) - A story of hope even when it felt impossible A beautiful lady contacted me in the summer at her wits end about her relationship. She did not feel safe with her partner but was willing to explore whether it was as one sided as her mind was telling her. After speaking with me, she realised
- [Why Relationships are a Power Game](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/why-relationships-are-a-power-game/) - Relationships are a Power Game Information alone cannot transform your relationship. Whilst you may realise that on an intellectual level, it is surprising how so many couples get stuck in cycles of thinking ‘we can sort this out on our own’. They try and work through their struggles by talking to friends or family, who
- [The Hidden Sabotage in many Relationships](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/the-hidden-sabotage-in-many-relationships/) - We have all been there – caught in the trap of thinking, “If only my partner would change, everything would be better.” It’s a common sentiment in relationships, but it’s also a subtle form of self-sabotage that can hold us back from true growth and happiness.The Illusion of External SolutionsWhen we fixate on our partner’s
- [Is optimism a good thing in a relationship?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/is-optimism-a-good-thing-in-a-relationship/) - The Glass Half Full Illusion in RelationshipsAs a relationship coach, I often observe a counterintuitive pattern: regularly, it is the “glass half full” optimists who carry the more subtle, yet equally detrimental, forms of relationship sabotage. What is particularly concerning is their inability to recognise these behaviors, as their minds are entangled in a comforting
- [Mastering Your Energy For Relationship Success](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/mastering-your-energy-for-relationship-success/) - Mastering Your Energy For Relationship Success In the quest for a fulfilling relationship, many of us turn to countless strategies, tips, and techniques. We read self-help books, attend workshops, and seek advice from friends and experts. Yet, despite our best efforts, we often find ourselves stuck in the same patterns, unable to create the connection
- [Attachment Styles in Relationships: Stop the Sabotage.](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/understanding-attachment-styles-in-relationships-stop-the-sabotage/) - Understand your Attachment Style and how it can create conflict and avoidance in your relationship. The first steps to mastering your energy for relationship success
- [Unhappy in your relationship?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/unhappy-in-your-relationship/) - Are you unhappy in your relationship? If so, you probably have a list of reasons to back this up. Your partner doesn’t listen. They don’t attempt to hear you.They interrupt, argue, always want to be right.They may even shut down, withdraw for days.When it comes to physical touch, even the little gestures have disappeared.You are
- [Respecting the differences between men and women](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/respecting-the-differences-between-men-and-women/) - Men and women are generally very attuned to the dysfunctional energy in their relationship.They usually know when something feels ‘off’ or unhealthy.Unfortunately most are missing the information to help them navigate this in a way that creates consistent connection. The behaviours that accompany such dysfunctional energy can show up in many different ways.They highlight the
- [What to do when your communication has triggered your partner's anger](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/what-to-do-when-your-communication-has-triggered-your-partners-anger/) - What to do if your partner has been triggered by your communication It can be tricky to navigate situations where your partner has been triggered into anger in response to something you have said. It very much depends on the nuances of the situation but here are some things to remember as well as some
- [How humor can be an avoidance tactic in your relationship.](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/how-humor-can-be-an-avoidance-tactic-in-your-relationship/) - Is Humour Being Used as an Avoidance Tactic in Your Relationship? At the beginning of 2024 I started working with a successful, young couple. Despite admitting that they didn’t think their relationship was ‘that bad’, they decided to seek my support as they were experiencing a few issues in their marriage (permission to share) that
- [Is Your Partner a Narcissist?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/is-your-partner-a-narcissist/) - Is your partner a narcissist? Narcissism is a lucrative business model right now. You only have to be on the main social media platforms for a few minutes before you will see evidence of this.On TikTok you will find reel after reel on what to watch out for if you think you are dealing with
- [Why managing your feelings is destroying your relationship.](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/why-managing-your-feelings-is-destroying-your-relationship/) - Why your ability to manage your feelings might be slowly destroying your relationship! The management of feelings is one of the biggest but most subtle problems I witness in the relationships I work with. It is a sure fire way to killing the connection and intimacy between yourself and your partner. In many cases it
- [Energy does not lie when it comes to love](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/energy-does-not-lie-when-it-comes-to-love/) - Energy does not lie when it comes to love. In various places around my website I talk about energy being king when it comes to our relationship.I realise that this may sound intangible to many people; so let me explain. Many people think they are doing everything they can to fix their relationship.However, what they
- [The main reason affairs happen.](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/the-main-reason-affairs-happen/) - Why do affairs happen? The main reason why so many extra-marital affairs happen is due to a lack of emotional connection.When a couple are struggling to connect on a regular basis, all sorts of issues start showing up in a relationship: Physical touch and intimacy generally starts to decline Men and women feel loneliness and despair
- [When your marriage isn't working anymore](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/when-your-marriage-isnt-working-anymore/) - When what used to work in your marriage is no longer working! Any long-term relationship can hit a crisis point (or two) throughout its journey.The initial throes of passion and excitement fall by the wayside once familiarity has set in. In an effort to try and keep the spark alive, many couples need the drama
- [Do men need to be vulnerable?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/do-men-need-to-be-vulnerable/) - Do men need to be vulnerable in their relationships? Unfortunately there are many unhealthy expectations when it comes to the topic of men and vulnerability. There is also much unhelpful advice, albeit unintentional, regarding what vulnerability should look like. Should a man express his innermost feelings to his partner?Should he express in the same way
- [When you feel stuck in your love life](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/when-you-keep-repeating-the-same-old-patterns-in-your-love-life/) - If you keep repeating the same pattern in your love life to the extent you are feeling stuck and frustrated because you cannot seem to move past it, I invite you to read on….. Whether your pattern is…. *Attracting the same kind of partners who are not a good match. *Attracting partner’s who seem a
- [Is your wife trying to control you?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/is-your-wife-is-trying-to-control-you/) - Men, do you feel that your partner is trying to control you? Does she point out everything you are doing wrong? Does she always think she knows better? Do you think to yourself ‘I’d better keep quiet just in case I say the wrong thing’ or ‘I just want a peaceful life’?Perhaps you find yourself
- [Is it normal to argue?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/is-it-normal-to-argue/) - Is it normal to argue in your romantic relationship? It is a commonly held belief that it is normal for couples to argue. However, arguments are only ‘normal’ as in they are common. Their existence still indicates a certain level of dysfunction that could be worked through to create more consistent connection and intimacy. Unfortunately, many It is only normal as it is common. Arguments are still a sign of dysfunction. They are an opportunity for growth to the point that the arguments can stop.
- [How to heal a broken relationship](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/how-to-heal-a-broken-relationship/) - Is too late to mend or heal your relationship? If this is crossing your mind at the moment, I can give you two examples of when this might be the case. There is some form of relationship abuse going on. If you are experiencing any physical, emotional, verbal or sexual abuse, it would be the
- [When you aren’t happy in love](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/when-you-arent-happy-in-love/) - When you aren’t happy or at least okay with where you are in love, life, business/work I’m in no doubt that you are ‘hooked’ (I see it every day in my clients). Hooked to the outer (societal) and inner voice that literally has you falling hook line and sinker for things that don’t help you
- [Unlocking Relationship Mastery - The Secrets to Creating Long Lasting Connection and Intimacy](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/unlocking-relationship-mastery/) - Unlocking Relationship Mastery – The Secrets to Creating Long Lasting Connection and Intimacy Do you know what the majority of relationships are starved of? Your mind is probably not going to like my answer, (or maybe it will, apologies if so 😉 ) They are starved of….. MAGIC. Hear me out, this is important. Knowing
- [Masculine Women in Relationships](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/masculine-women-in-relationships/) - What does a Masculine Women in a Relationship look like? To start with when I say masculine, this refers to a woman’s energy. Many women are over masculine in their relationships. They have been conditioned to show up like this without realising. I have worked with many relationships where this dynamic is in place. I
- [Can I save my marriage after separation?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/can-i-save-my-marriage-after-separation/) - Can you save your marriage or relationship even though you have separated? Yes, absolutely, is my answer (I say this with conviction because I have seen some of my clients do it…see below). If there is love still between you and you both want to make a go of your relationship again, there is no
- [How to achieve a conflict free relationship](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/how-to-achieve-a-conflict-free-relationship/) - Discord & unhappiness in relationships appears in many forms. Some couples goes months without arguing. Others argue weekly, daily even & then there are those who do whatever they can to avoid conflict. We all know that no relationship is perfect & so we tend to believe that some amount of conflict is normal. However,
- [Why a Positive Mindset won’t help you create an extraordinary love!](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/why-a-positive-mindset-wont-help-you-create-an-extraordinary-love/) - An exquisite, beautiful, emotionally connected relationship, which enjoys high levels of passion & eroticism is not created from a positive mindset. A positive mindset only works when it works. It is a plaster on a wound. It will never be enough to counteract the heavy, dense energy & effects of one’s shadow. There are 3
- [What is stopping you from being magnetic to a devoted man?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/what-is-stopping-you-from-being-magnetic-to-a-devoted-man/) - What is stopping you from being magnetic to a devoted man? A man who is willing to commit to doing whatever it takes to meet you in your desires?
- [How to overcome the pain and hurt you feel in your relationship!](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/how-to-overcome-the-pain-hurt-you-feel-in-your-relationship/) - Would you love to move past the hurt & pain you experience in your relationship? To receive the love, connection & intimacy that you yearn for but that...
- [Healthy V Dysfunctional Relationships, which one is yours?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/healthy-v-dysfunctional-relationships/) - A quick test I use when working with clients & to ascertain the health of their relationship is this & it is a question you can ask yourself:
- [Embracing your masculine and feminine energies for a deeper connection](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/embracing-your-masculine-and-feminine-energies-for-a-deeper-connection/) - Create a deeper love and connection in your relationship by embracing your own empowered feminine and masculine energies within.
- [Concerned about repeating old patterns in your new relationship?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/concerned-about-repeating-old-patterns-in-your-new-relationship/) - If you are in the early days of a new relationship or just venturing out of the blissful days of the honeymoon period you may have noticed anxieties...
- [Do you need boundaries in your relationship?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/do-you-need-boundaries-in-your-relationship/) - To be honest I can no longer see or hear the boundaries in my marriage.They are just there.They are unspoken and are an integral part of the healthy relating that goes on between myself and my husband.My husband and I are adaptable and flexible. We trust ourselves and each other to adjust to the flow
- [Are you too intelligent for your relationship?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/are-you-too-intelligent-for-your-relationship/) - Are you too intelligent for your own good in your relationship?My clients are very intelligent men and women who have created work and business success in their lives. Even if their success is not so much financial, they have attained a level of mastery in their chosen field.Their ability to problem solve is second to
- [Do you have relationship shame?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/do-you-have-relationship-shame/) - Relationship shame is real and common.It’s generally that icky, heavy feeling that comes up when you think about the lack of fulfilment in your love life. My clients are successful career or business people but their relationship is lagging behind.This can bring up a lot of shame based feelings for them such as:- Why can’t My clients are successful career or business people but their relationship is lagging behind. This can bring up a lot of shame based feelings for them...
- [To agree to disagree. Is it a good idea?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/to-agree-to-disagree-is-it-a-good-idea/) - To agree to disagree may have its uses in some cases. It doesn’t seem wise to put a statement such as this on every situation; especially when it comes to relationships. Maybe you and your partner just see a certain topic or aspect of life differently. You have differing opinions but it doesn’t cause a
- [Is resentment building in your relationship?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/is-resentment-building-in-your-relationship/) - If resentment is building between you and your partner either due to recurring conflict or avoidance of talking about the topics that need to be addressed then I encourage you to hold tight. It does not have to mean the end of your relationship (you can see the situations that would signal that it is
- [The ‘No Relationship is Perfect’ Argument.](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/the-no-relationship-is-perfect-argument/) - There are two very different ways to relate to the ‘no relationship is perfect’ argument. One way creates stagnancy, low grade or non-existent intimacy the other consistent erotic aliveness in all its forms. The ‘No Relationship is Perfect’ couple who are actually stuck in dysfunction (often without full awareness) can look remarkably similar to the
- [How cynicism can ruin your relationship](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/how-cynicism-can-ruin-your-relationship/) - Higher quality conversations that lead to greater, more consistent intimacy and emotional connection in your relationship……..involve calling yourself out on your own limited perspectives.Cynicism is a big one. We all love to be cynical especially when we think we smell a rat about something. There are a lot of scams out there and so it
- [Is there such a thing as a perfect relationship?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/is-there-such-a-thing-as-a-perfect-relationship/) - We often hear people saying there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. We know that intellectually, yet it is evident from the level of dysfunction that goes on in relationships that many people are still chasing an ideal. On the other hand many people use this statement as a way of hiding behind
- [Does Marriage Counselling Work](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/does-marriage-counselling-work/) - Marriage counselling and therapy often get a bad rap. I’m sure you have heard the saying ‘it put the final nail in the coffin’. This is not really surprising given that many people decide to go to therapy when the relationship really is in dire straits.It is also no wonder when many couples think that
- [What Your Relationship Wants](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/what-your-relationship-wants/) - Your relationship does not care about you being right.It cares about you knowing HOW to create emotional connection.It wants you to go deeper than just surface level opinions and likes and dislikes.Knowing how to create a deeply loving relationship requires having emotional connection with yourself first and foremost.If you think you already have this please
- [Why your feelings create gold in your relationship!](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/why-your-feelings-create-gold-in-your-relationship/) - How to turn your anxiety, depression, frustration into absolute gold in your relationship (and all other areas of your life)It really is all there for your taking.Unfortunately feelings are a topic that is HIGHLY underestimated. Let’s face it many feelings don’t feel that good and even the good feelings such as joy are surfaced over
- [Why successful people often fail at love](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/why-successful-people-often-fail-at-love/) - It is no coincidence that super successful people often have highly dysfunctional relationships.They live in a world where the mind rules. When someone over relies on their mind they are so fixed on trying to get things ‘right’ or being perfect that they are unable to create transformation in a short amount of time. They
- [Are you in integrity in your love life?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/are-you-in-integrity-when-it-comes-to-love/) - Integrity in Love.Are you really being the person you want to be in your relationship? Most people are so focused on what their partner is or isn’t doing they fail to see that they are also falling short of their own standards. We know we are never going to be perfect. However, if you are
- [Dark love and Sex](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/dark-love-and-sex/) - Have you ever heard of the term Dark Love?I want to share it with you because it has changed my life & my marriage, especially the physical intimacy in my relationship. I try to live my life according to the principles of the Dark because it represents the most freeing & liberating way for me
- [Healing Your Relationship With Masculine Energy](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/healing-your-relationship-with-masculine-energy/) - Healing your relationship with masculine energy and how your love life will benefit. Many women have a dysfunctional relationship with masculine energy and this is a big reason why women feel unsatisfied in their love lives.
- [Women want their man to lead!](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/women-want-their-man-to-lead/) - I am going to share something that women may disagree with……. Many highly successful women have a deep-down yearning (often unconscious) to be led by their ...
- [Successful at work but not in love?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/successful-at-work-but-not-in-love/) - Are you successful at work but questioning your relationship? Even thinking “should I leave”, because perhaps your partner does not seem to be able to keep up with you? I come across many women who are making huge strides in their business or in their career but who are simultaneously struggling in their romantic life.
- [Create a deeply loving relationship](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/creating-a-real-deeply-loving-relationship/) - What it really takes to create a relationship with deep emotional connection & hot physical intimacy. How I have created this with my husband during our 20 years of marriage.The above is a picture of my husband & I on our wedding day back in 2002. It felt like the dream in so many ways. The day itself not only because the sun was shining but also because we had such a fun, loving experience with so many close friends & family members. We The above is a picture of my husband & I on our wedding day back in 2002. It felt like the dream in so many ways. The day itself not only because the sun was shining but also because we had such a fun, loving experience with so many close friends & family members. We
- [Is your lack of trust ruining your relationship?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/is-your-lack-of-trust-ruining-your-relationship/) - The level of unease that you experience in your relationship, signifies your level of trust in your partner. A lack of trust can sabotage your relationship...
- [Where & How to Find Your Extraordinary Love!](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/where-how-to-find-your-extraordinary-love/) - What people need to realise is that Love happens IN the NOW, in the present! It actually has the capacity to unfold in any given moment.....
- [How to navigate reoccurring conflict in love!](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/how-to-navigate-reoccurring-conflict-in-love/) - How you deal with conflict is often far more important than the actual conflict itself. Find out what types of conflict are a red flag to any marriage.
- [How Menopause can threaten even healthy relationships!](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/how-menopause-can-threaten-even-healthy-relationships/) - Perimenopause and menopause are a time of transition for women. Many women struggle hugely with emotional and physical changes that many doctor is at a lost to know how to deal with. This can have a huge impact on our relationships.
- [Is Your Relationship Calling for Growth?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/is-your-relationship-calling-for-growth/) - All relationships grow & change over time. The trouble is most people are intimidated by change & do not realise that their relationship requires nurturing & nourishment to stay healthy.
- [Are you sabotaging your relationship?](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/are-you-sabotaging-your-relationship/) - Relationship sabotage can come in all shapes and forms. If you are not happy in love the chances are you are sabotaging in some way.
- [To leave him or not??](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/to-leave-him-or-not/) - If you are concerned about whether you are in the right relationship or are thinking that perhaps your partner is not ‘enough’ for you then I urge you to read on. Sometimes relationships run their course. I would always advise someone in an abusive relationship to leave along with anyone who’s most important values are
- [Hold the Vision for Your Relationship!](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/hold-the-vision-for-your-relationship/) - When your relationship is not going the way you want it to, it is crucial to hold a vision for how you would like it to be.
- [How to transform your romantic life once & for all!](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/how-to-transform-your-romantic-life-one-for-all/) - You love your man but he just isn’t stepping up!He just does not seem capable of meeting your needs. You’ve tried expressing what you want, putting boundaries in but still there’s that nagging doubt. ‘Could I do better?’ you ask yourself & your ego is quick to rely “yes”! And the cycle starts again.Sometimes you
- [Permission to go for what you want in your relationship](https://michelewillmott.co.uk/permission-to-go-for-what-you-want-in-your-relationship/) - So many people hold back from going for what they truly desire in their relationship out of fear. But our relationship is wired for change. A stifled desire is a stifled relationship.
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