The hidden cost of suppressed male anger in relationships
The Hidden Cost of Suppressed Male Anger in Relationships We need to talk about something that happens in countless relationships: when men suppress their anger they inadvertently create a deeper problem. Picture this: An argument has occurred. He’s angry. Really angry. But he’s learned that expressing anger can be destructive. He has made mistakes before. Maybe he’s […]
The Mirror Effect: How Your Money Patterns Reflect Your Relationship Dynamics
Investment Patterns Mirror Commitment Patterns.How you handle money mirrors how you show up in your relationship. This mirror effect reveals itself in powerful ways:- Hesitating to spend = Hesitating to be vulnerable.- Seeking guarantees = Avoiding emotional risks.- Looking for quick fixes = Avoiding deep work.Avoidance in one area is avoidance in another, and here’s the […]
When You Are Both Right But Still Disconnected
Breaking Through the Communication Smokescreen: Why Being “Right” Isn’t EnoughDo you often find yourself in a conversation with your partner where you both have completely valid points, yet somehow you are still stuck? You might even acknowledge each other’s perspective, but the discussion keeps going nowhere, perhaps even becoming competitive. If this sounds familiar, you […]
The Hidden Sabotage in many Relationships
We have all been there – caught in the trap of thinking, “If only my partner would change, everything would be better.” It is a common sentiment in relationships, but it’s also a subtle form of self-sabotage that can hold you back from true growth and happiness.The Illusion of External SolutionsWhen we fixate on our […]
Is optimism a good thing in a relationship?
The Glass Half Full Illusion in RelationshipsAs a relationship coach, I often observe a counterintuitive pattern: regularly, it is the “glass half full” optimists who carry the more subtle, yet equally detrimental, forms of relationship sabotage. What is particularly concerning is their inability to recognise these behaviors, as their minds are entangled in a comforting lie […]
Mastering Your Energy For Relationship Success
Mastering Your Energy For Relationship Success In the quest for a fulfilling relationship, many of us turn to countless strategies, tips, and techniques. We read self-help books, attend workshops, and seek advice from friends and experts. Yet, despite our best efforts, we often find ourselves stuck in the same patterns, unable to create the connection we […]
Attachment Styles in Relationships: Stop the Sabotage.
Understanding Attachment Styles in Romantic Relationships: Moving Beyond Self-SabotageAttachment styles play a crucial role in shaping our romantic relationships. They influence how we connect, communicate, and respond to our partners. Understanding your attachment style can help you foster a healthier and more fulfilling relationship. However, it’s not just about knowing your attachment style; it’s about recognizing […]
Unhappy in your relationship?
Are you unhappy in your relationship? If so, you probably have a list of reasons to back this up. Your partner doesn’t listen. They don’t attempt to hear you.They interrupt, argue, always want to be right.They may even shut down, withdraw for days.When it comes to physical touch, even the little gestures have disappeared.You are really starting […]
Respecting the differences between men and women
Men and women are generally very attuned to the dysfunctional energy in their relationship.They usually know when something feels ‘off’ or unhealthy.Unfortunately most are missing the information to help them navigate this in a way that creates consistent connection. The behaviours that accompany such dysfunctional energy can show up in many different ways.They highlight the instinctual […]
What to do when your communication has triggered your partner’s anger
What to do if your partner has been triggered by your communicationIt can be tricky to navigate situations where your partner has been triggered into anger in response to something you have said. It very much depends on the nuances of the situation but here are some things to remember as well as some tips […]
