Real Relationships
Do you need boundaries in your relationship?
To be honest I can no longer see or hear the boundaries in my marriage.They are just there.They are unspoken and are an integral part of the healthy relating that goes on between myself and my husband.My husband and I are adaptable and flexible. We trust ourselves and each other to adjust to the flow […]
Is your wife trying to control you?
Men, do you feel that your partner is trying to control you? Does she point out everything you are doing wrong? Does she always think she knows better? Do you think to yourself ‘I’d better keep quiet just in case I say the wrong thing’ or ‘I just want a peaceful life’?Perhaps you find yourself being […]
The main reason affairs happen.
Why do affairs happen?The main reason why so many extra-marital affairs happen is due to a lack of emotional connection.When a couple are struggling to connect on a regular basis, all sorts of issues start showing up in a relationship:Physical touch and intimacy generally starts to decline Men and women feel loneliness and despairResentment builds up under […]
Are you too intelligent for your relationship?
Are you too intelligent for your own good in your relationship?My clients are very intelligent men and women who have created work and business success in their lives. Even if their success is not so much financial, they have attained a level of mastery in their chosen field.Their ability to problem solve is second to […]
Do you have relationship shame?
Relationship shame is real and common.It’s generally that icky, heavy feeling that comes up when you think about the lack of fulfilment in your love life. My clients are successful career or business people but their relationship is lagging behind.This can bring up a lot of shame based feelings for them such as:- Why can’t I […]
To agree to disagree. Is it a good idea?
To agree to disagree may have its uses in some cases. It doesn’t seem wise to put a statement such as this on every situation; especially when it comes to relationships.Maybe you and your partner just see a certain topic or aspect of life differently. You have differing opinions but it doesn’t cause a rift […]
Is resentment building in your relationship?
If resentment is building between you and your partner either due to recurring conflict or avoidance of talking about the topics that need to be addressed then I encourage you to hold tight. It does not have to mean the end of your relationship (you can see the situations that would signal that it is time […]
Is there such a thing as a perfect relationship?
We often hear people saying there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. We know that intellectually, yet it is evident from the level of dysfunction that goes on in relationships that many people are still chasing an ideal. On the other hand many people use this statement as a way of hiding behind their […]
Does Marriage Counselling Work
Marriage counselling and therapy often get a bad rap. I’m sure you have heard the saying ‘it put the final nail in the coffin’. This is not really surprising given that many people decide to go to therapy when the relationship really is in dire straits.It is also no wonder when many couples think that going to […]
How cynicism can ruin your relationship
Higher quality conversations that lead to greater, more consistent intimacy and emotional connection in your relationship……..involve calling yourself out on your own limited perspectives.Cynicism is a big one. We all love to be cynical especially when we think we smell a rat about something. There are a lot of scams out there and so it […]